Ruptures and Repairs
Relationships are simply a series of ruptures and repairs.
One moment you and your partner are attuned and on the same page. You’re making eye contact, talking fluidly, and feel comfortable and safe in your bodies. The next, you’re not. Something is said that rubs you the wrong way. You tense up. You feel annoyed. You withdraw from the conversation. There has been a rupture in your attunement and sense of connection. When you feel ready, you tell your partner that something he said upset you, and you check in with him about what he actually meant. You have a conversation about what happened and how you both feel about it. You feel connected again.