If I had a nickel for every time I’ve heard someone say that the reason they’re afraid to set boundaries is because they’re afraid of being “mean,” I’d be rich. Our culture, on the one hand, upholds individualism to an extreme, while on the other hand, encourages and normalizes unhealthy codependent relational dynamics. Mixed messages much?
I had no idea what boundaries were until graduate school. I’d never even heard the word—which is mind-blowing today. You can’t get on Instagram without seeing like ten different posts about boundaries. So, most people have at least heard the word “boundary,” but many still don’t really understand what boundaries are.
I have a like-hate relationship with social media, as I think many of us do nowadays. There are some good things about it... I like some of the groups I’m in on Facebook, and I learn a lot from some of the accounts that I follow on Instagram. It’s a decent tool for keeping in touch and up-to-date with family and friends you don’t get to see everyday–-especially now in the age of COVID and social distancing.
There’s lots of talk floating around these days about “healthy” vs “unhealthy” boundaries. Which actually thrills me. I’m a boundary enthusiast and I love that people are talking about boundaries, even if not all the information out there is fully informed. Any kind of processing and questioning happening around the importance of boundaries is a good thing in my book.