Category: Boundaries

Are You Close or Are You Enmeshed?: Differentiating Between Intimacy and Enmeshment

7/28/2023

Young black woman laughing with eyes closed. This represents the young adult clients that come to Sacred Circle Holistic Healing for online therapy in Lawrence, Kansas.

Intimacy or Enmeshment?

“My mom and I are so close; I tell her everything.” This is something I often hear from clients when I first begin working with them. But with time what we often discover is that what the client thought of as “closeness” was actually enmeshment. Enmeshment is a term that describes a lack of healthy boundaries in relationship. Read more about enmeshment in my article, What is Enmeshment and Why Is it Harmful?

Internal Boundaries: The Importance of Setting Boundaries with Yourself

2/17/2023

Young woman standing on the beach representing a therapy client in Lawerence, Kansas who healed their anxiety and low self-esteem.

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What are Boundaries?

Boundaries are the guidelines and expectations we identify for ourselves about how we’d like to be treated by others and what actions we’ll take if someone oversteps those limits.

We learn how to set boundaries as children through modeling from the adults around us and through the experiences we have growing up. What were the messages you received about saying “no”? Was your “no” respected? Did you get in trouble for saying “no” to adults? These kinds of questions can tell us a lot about the training we received about boundaries and autonomy. For a more in depth discussion about different types of boundaries and how to set them, check out this blog post about boundaries that I wrote a while back.

Typically when we think about boundaries we think about the boundaries we have with other people, but sometimes the boundaries we need to set are actually with ourselves. These boundaries are called internal boundaries. In this post you will learn what internal boundaries are and why it is important to have them.

Do You Have Unhealthy Boundaries?

2/3/2023

Young woman resting her head on her knees. She represents a young adult living in Kansas who is struggles with childhood trauma and has come for online therapy.

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Healthy Boundaries

Healthy boundaries are:

Clear
Expressed
Enforced

Read more about what makes up healthy boundaries.

Setting Boundaries Doesn't Make You an Asshole

7/15/2022

Young black woman sitting in front of a gate staring into the camera. This represents that sometimes we feel as if we need to protect ourselves. Sacred Circle Holistic Healing offers therapy for codependency for adults in Kansas.

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If I had a nickel for every time I’ve heard someone say that the reason they’re afraid to set boundaries is because they’re afraid of being “mean,” I’d be rich. Our culture, on the one hand, upholds individualism to an extreme, while on the other hand, encourages and normalizes unhealthy codependent relational dynamics. Mixed messages much?

Boundaries, What Are They?

3/25/2022

Young black woman looking into the camera. This illustrates that Sacred Circle Holistic Healing helps young women in Kansas learn to set healthy boundaries.

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The Magic of Boundaries

I had no idea what boundaries were until graduate school. I’d never even heard the word—which is mind-blowing today. You can’t get on Instagram without seeing like ten different posts about boundaries. So, most people have at least heard the word “boundary,” but many still don’t really understand what boundaries are.

5 Tips for Better Social Media Boundaries

12/23/2021

Young Black man looking at this iPhone. This represents that Sacred Circle Holistic Healing helps young people learn to set healthy boundaries.

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I have a like-hate relationship with social media, as I think many of us do nowadays. There are some good things about it... I like some of the groups I’m in on Facebook, and I learn a lot from some of the accounts that I follow on Instagram. It’s a decent tool for keeping in touch and up-to-date with family and friends you don’t get to see everyday–-especially now in the age of COVID and social distancing.

The 3 Qualities of Healthy boundaries

12/10/2021

Young woman with arm tattos staring at the camera. This illustrates that Sacred Circle Holistic Healing offers online counseling in Kansas for young woman struggling with low self-esteem and anxiety.

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Healthy vs. Unhealthy Boundaries

There’s lots of talk floating around these days about “healthy” vs “unhealthy” boundaries. Which actually thrills me. I’m a boundary enthusiast and I love that people are talking about boundaries, even if not all the information out there is fully informed. Any kind of processing and questioning happening around the importance of boundaries is a good thing in my book.

Are You Close or Are You Enmeshed?: Differentiating Between Intimacy and Enmeshment

Intimacy or Enmeshment?

Internal Boundaries: The Importance of Setting Boundaries with Yourself

What are Boundaries?

Do You Have Unhealthy Boundaries?

Healthy Boundaries

Setting Boundaries Doesn't Make You an Asshole

Boundaries, What Are They?

The Magic of Boundaries

5 Tips for Better Social Media Boundaries

The 3 Qualities of Healthy boundaries

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Boundaries

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Are You Close or Are You Enmeshed?: Differentiating Between Intimacy and Enmeshment

Intimacy or Enmeshment?

Internal Boundaries: The Importance of Setting Boundaries with Yourself

What are Boundaries?

Do You Have Unhealthy Boundaries?

Healthy Boundaries

Setting Boundaries Doesn't Make You an Asshole

Boundaries, What Are They?

The Magic of Boundaries

5 Tips for Better Social Media Boundaries

The 3 Qualities of Healthy boundaries

​Healthy vs. Unhealthy Boundaries

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Healthy vs. Unhealthy Boundaries