Category: Codependency

What Is Codependency?

5/13/2022

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Codependency is a pattern of relating that’s characterized by a lack of personal boundaries and over-focusing on the needs, wants, and/or problems of others.

Codependency was originally used to describe behaviors of spouses and children of alcoholics. But because codependent patterns can manifest in many different contexts outside of addiction, the definition has since expanded.

People-Pleasing as a Trauma Response

4/22/2022

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What is People-Pleasing?

People-pleasing is an orientation to others, instead of an orientation to the Self. People-Pleasing is built on a deep, globalized belief that we cannot trust ourselves so we must look to other people in order to know what is acceptable, lovable, and OK.

On Low Self-Esteem and Being Scared to Take Up Space

4/1/2022

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You’re Not “Too Much”

Being scared to take up space means feeling like it’s not OK for us to have wants or needs. That is not OK for us to “inconvenience” or “burden” other people.

When we’re scared to take up space, we often believe deep down that the only way for us to avoid abandonment is to put our needs aside and make ourselves as convenient and agreeable as possible. Maybe then, if we’re easy enough to be around, others will put up with us. They won’t notice how bad we really are.

Boundaries, What Are They?

3/25/2022

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The Magic of Boundaries

I had no idea what boundaries were until graduate school. I’d never even heard the word—which is mind-blowing today. You can’t get on Instagram without seeing like ten different posts about boundaries. So, most people have at least heard the word “boundary,” but many still don’t really understand what boundaries are.

The Healthy Relationship You Want Doesn't Start with Games

1/20/2022

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People pleasing and codependency as forms of emotional unavailability

I’ve always thought of myself as an emotionally available person. I care about other people’s feelings, I’m a good listener, and I’m a loyal friend and partner. And I’ve always been a romantic. I constantly fantasized about finding a partner that really understood me, really saw me for who I was, someone who really loved me and whom I loved in return.

Passivity During Conflict: Healthy or Unhealthy?

11/5/2019

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Is being passive during conflict an intelligent thing to do or is it a symptom of emotional issues such as codependency? The short answer is that it can be either depending upon the degree of conscious choice involved in the behavior.

What Is Codependency?

People-Pleasing as a Trauma Response

What is People-Pleasing?

On Low Self-Esteem and Being Scared to Take Up Space

You’re Not “Too Much”

Boundaries, What Are They?

The Magic of Boundaries

The Healthy Relationship You Want Doesn't Start with Games

People pleasing and codependency as forms of emotional unavailability

Passivity During Conflict: Healthy or Unhealthy?

Maggie Jones Boyle, LPC

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What Is Codependency?

People-Pleasing as a Trauma Response

What is People-Pleasing?

On Low Self-Esteem and Being Scared to Take Up Space

You’re Not “Too Much”

Boundaries, What Are They?

The Magic of Boundaries

The Healthy Relationship You Want Doesn't Start with Games

​People pleasing and codependency as forms of emotional unavailability

Passivity During Conflict: Healthy or Unhealthy?

Maggie Jones Boyle, LPC

Archives

Categories

People pleasing and codependency as forms of emotional unavailability