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Accepting Your Inner Critic

4/29/2022

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Help Your Inner Critic Relax

Having an activated inner critic—a voice that’s constantly telling us all the ways in which we aren’t good enough or how we should be different—sucks. It’s painful and usually goes hand-in-hand with guilt, anxiety, and low self-esteem. So, it’s completely normal to wish your inner critic would just disappear.

People-Pleasing as a Trauma Response

4/22/2022

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What is People-Pleasing?

People-pleasing is an orientation to others, instead of an orientation to the Self. People-Pleasing is built on a deep, globalized belief that we cannot trust ourselves so we must look to other people in order to know what is acceptable, lovable, and OK.

Invite Your Emotions in For Tea

4/15/2022

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Turning Toward Our Emotions

As with any aspect of life, when we don’t understand something it can feel intimidating and scary. The same goes for our inner selves and our emotions. Most people fear their emotions. Fear the intensity of them. Fear what they may do when they’re feeling them.

Anger: The Canary in the Coal Mine

4/8/2022

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Anger as a Wise Messenger

Out of all the emotions, anger might be the most demonized and misunderstood. But anger is a wise messenger that has a very specific purpose. Anger is our body’s way of telling us that something isn’t right. That something needs to change (even if the factor that needs to adjust in the situation is us).

Often it’s trying to tell us that a boundary has been crossed. Sometimes it’s letting us know that there are other emotions in our system that need our attention—it’s common for us to discover that under anger is a deep well of unacknowledged disappointment, sadness, or grief.

But regardless of the exact message of your anger in the moment, one thing is certain, anger is an alarm system. It’s the canary in the coal mine. It’s our body’s way of alerting us to a problem, and learning to listen to it is imperative.

We are Taught to Suppress Our Anger

On Low Self-Esteem and Being Scared to Take Up Space

4/1/2022

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You’re Not “Too Much”

Being scared to take up space means feeling like it’s not OK for us to have wants or needs. That is not OK for us to “inconvenience” or “burden” other people.

When we’re scared to take up space, we often believe deep down that the only way for us to avoid abandonment is to put our needs aside and make ourselves as convenient and agreeable as possible. Maybe then, if we’re easy enough to be around, others will put up with us. They won’t notice how bad we really are.