Holistic Therapy and Counseling for People-Pleasing
People-pleasing, also known as the fawn trauma response, is a pattern of relating that’s characterized by a lack of personal boundaries and over-focusing on the needs/wants/problems of others, while simultaneously ignoring and suppressing one’s own wants and needs.
Therapy for people-pleasing could just as easily be called “therapy for boundaries”—at the core of all people-pleasing a is difficulty setting boundaries in relationships. It could also be called “therapy for self-worth,” because low self-worth and compulsive people-pleasing tend to go hand-in-hand.
People-pleasing can look like:
When we are stuck in codependent patterns relationships feel stressful. Whenever anyone close to you has a problem you feel anxious or guilty, like it’s somehow your fault. And even if intellectually you *know* it’s not your fault, the feelings you have when someone else is hurting are so uncomfortable that you feel like you have to help them “fix it,” even if that means giving unwanted input or advice, or doing things you really don’t want to do.
On top of feeling responsible for others, you’re also really hard on yourself, criticizing everything from the way you think and feel, to the way you look and behave. You’re afraid of making mistakes, so you try your best to be perfect, and even though you’re constantly seeking praise and external validation, you have a hard time letting compliments in.
I’m here to tell you, it doesn’t have to be this way.
Life Doesn’t Have to Feel So Stressful
The amount of anxiety, shame, and fear underlying codependency can feel like a nightmare. You may be wondering—why is it so hard for me to be authentic? Will I ever feel comfortable in my own skin? Why can’t I just let go and be myself?
I’ve helped many adults just like you step into their power and start relating to their partners, parents, friends, and other loved ones in a healthier way. In therapy with me you will have a non-judgmental space to explore who you really are and how you got to where you are today.
Therapy for people-pleasing is for you if:
- You’d like to understand what boundaries are and how to set them with your partner, parents, and friends.
- You’d like to feel confident in your ability to advocate for yourself and navigate conflict and rejection without crumbling.
- You’d like to build a solid, unshakable relationship with yourself.
- You’d like to understand who you are and what you need.
My main goal is for you to feel so grounded and centered that you never fear losing yourself in a close relationship ever again.
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