Having a positive experience in therapy hinges upon finding a therapist that is a good fit for you. Finding a good fit therapist involves more than the therapist’s credentials or the type of therapy they practice; it is largely an intuitive process that involves subtle energetics, which have nothing to do with formal training or therapeutic modality. One of the best things to ask yourself is simply, “Does it feel right to talk to this person?”
The people I work best with are naturally curious about themselves. They are good at reading a room and tend to notice subtleties in social interactions. They are highly perceptive and have often felt misunderstood because of this—most people don’t seem to see things the way they do. In fact, many of my clients are gifted but don’t even know it. They’ve always just felt different.
Many of them are journalers and enjoy introspecting in order to better understand their thoughts, motivations, and feelings. They wonder what led them to be the way they are, and are interested in understanding more about how the family they grew up in and the other experiences they have had, have impacted them.
Many of my clients have been to therapy before. Some have spent years in therapy but still feel like they didn’t get exactly what they were looking for. I often hear that they were taught coping skills and strategies for managing their symptoms, but never got to explore the deeper “why” behind the symptoms.
Many of my clients share that they felt as if they outgrew their former therapists, or that it seemed like the therapists no longer knew how to help them go deeper in their healing and self-exploration.
The clients I work best with are spiritually inclined and tend to think in terms of their soul. They often feel that this soul-level exploration was part of what was missing in their prior experiences of therapy. They are interested in more than simply feeling better. They want to walk away with a deeper understanding of their meaning and purpose and a deeper sense of connection with that which is bigger than themselves.